Lesson #1

Lesson #1- Keep your best friends close and those other friends farther… matter of fact, just keep your friends out of your business when it comes to relationships.

Oh a lesson I have learned oh so well and the hard way. Great friends will NOT, if you tell them something and you all have a falling out, go around telling your business. No one’s life is an open book when it comes to friendships and relationships. It is important that you trust your friends but even in trust you have to learn to distance yourself from some people.

A good friend, like a person I know, let’s call her Libra, will say when you come to her with a problem, “it is none of my business, you have to handle it”. It is not because she doesn’t care, it is only because she does not want the problem to change her perception of that person.

Also if you are going to have friends, and you are starting or in a relationship, make sure they are mature. Mature people will take your business to the grave. Let me cite my own personal precedence. In a relationship, when things went wrong, I thought it was ok for me to go to my friends for advice. What I didn’t know is that they were immature enough that when a problem arose, they used the info that I had entrusted in them against me. If I had known what I know now, I wouldn’t have told them a thing. Hey, because of what I know, if I ever had a child, they would find about them when they were 10 years old. Yes, it is just that serious.

You are in a relationship. What goes on between you two should be between you two. If you do go to a friend with a scenario, know that you can trust them. We are women, we do go to other people when we don’t understand things but we don’t need our business out on front street. Even though I am not dating and will not date, I have learned something valuable. If you want a happy relationship, don’t make the mistake I did…